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Peace is an aesthetic. It's a present.
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And it's not something you accidentally
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stumble into as a mom. It's something
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that you cultivate little by little,
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choice by choice, room by room, and day
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by day.
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Our homes are loud, busy, and full of
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needs. But I have learned that peace
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isn't the absence of noise or mess.
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Peace is something that starts within
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us, moves through our routines, and
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settles into the very atmosphere of our
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homes. Today, I want to talk about how
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we can create peaceful homes as
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Christian mothers, both biblically and
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practically, because God cares deeply
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about the spaces we build.
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When we think of peace, we often imagine
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quiet rooms, clean floors, warm
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blankets, and soft lighting. And while
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those things are beautiful, they aren't
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the full story. Biblical peace is about
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wholeness, harmony, order, and
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well-being. It's a peace that guards our
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hearts and our minds through Jesus
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Christ. Philippians 4:7 tells us, "And
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the peace of God which surpasses all
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understanding will guard your hearts and
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minds in Christ Jesus."
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This is the kind of peace that is
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internal before it ever becomes
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external. Which means a peaceful home
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begins with a peaceful heart.
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Not a perfect home, not a quiet home,
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not an Instagram home, a heart at rest
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in God. And this is why two moms can
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have the same amount of laundry, dishes,
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and toys, and one will feel frantic
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while the other one will feel calm.
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As mothers, we set the emotional
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temperature of the home more than we
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realize. When we are anxious, the home
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feels tense. And when we're hurried, the
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home feels rushed. When we slow down,
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breathe, pray, and choose gentleness,
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the atmosphere just kind of shifts.
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So, let's talk about three internal
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practices that change everything.
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Number one is spending our mornings with
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the Lord. Even if it's just 2 minutes,
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peace doesn't require an hour of quiet.
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Sometimes just one verse while you
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prepare breakfast or a whispered prayer
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while nursing the baby.
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Number two is slowing down our pace. I'm
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always talking about how beneficial slow
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living is and how freeing it can be
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because most of our anxiety comes from
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rushing. But God rarely rushes us. the
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world does. And number three is letting
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go of control. We cannot control
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everything that our kids do. We can't
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always control nap time or even clutter
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or make sure that our schedules are
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perfect, but we can control our response
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and how we react. Peace grows when we
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realize what God never asked for us to
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carry.
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Now, let's talk practically because
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peace is spiritual, but it's also wildly
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practical. Peace comes from
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predictability. When the home has gentle
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rhythms, moms don't have to make 10,000
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decisions every single day. So, here are
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some rhythms that build peace over time.
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First is the daily reset. Not a deep
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clean, just returning the home to
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functional. This is something that I
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also talk about in a lot of my clean
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with me videos, but for us it looks like
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just loading the dishwasher, clearing
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off the counters, fixing the couch
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pillows, and quickly picking things up
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off the floor. It doesn't have to be
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perfect. It just needs to reset or be
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easier to manage and easier to move
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around.
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Next is the laundry rhythm because
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laundry is a piece stealer. When it
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piles up, it seems like it can be never
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ending. But just pick one rhythm and
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commit to it. Start small. One load a
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day or two loads twice a week or one big
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laundry day, whichever is best for you.
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Because once you figure out what works
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for you and you commit to it, you learn
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that there can also be peace gained from
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having a plan, even if it's not
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perfection.
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Next is the kitchen rhythm. A peaceful
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home often starts in the kitchen. We
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like to do morning and dinner dishes and
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wipe the counters down after meals. It
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takes 10 minutes, but it saves hours of
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overwhelm.
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And then the next one is toy and clutter
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rhythm. Kids do not need a million toys
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out to be happy. In fact, I remember I
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used to have a ton of toys. So much that
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we ran out of storage solution in both
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our basement and garage. Once I
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decluttered my children's toys, I
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noticed that not only did it make
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cleaning and maintenance easier for me,
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but they also played a lot better. So
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now we just keep minimal toys, open
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baskets so that my children can put
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their own things away and we make sure
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that everything has a home.
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Peace thrives in order, not necessarily
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minimalism, but definitely order.
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And the last rhythm I want to talk about
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is screens and noise because the home's
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atmosphere is definitely shaped by the
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sensory input and output.
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And this is something that we as moms
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can definitely attest to because we
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often can feel that sensory overload and
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overwhelm ourselves. So, if we're
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constantly agitated or irritated quietly
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by the noise that surrounds us, both
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physical noise like clutter, but also
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actual literal noise like our children
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fighting or yelling or playing or
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whatever it is, whatever season of
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motherhood you're in, usually for me,
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it's my six-year-old just playing very,
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very loudly, which there's nothing wrong
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with that, but that's just an example of
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how sensory
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input and output can shape the home's
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atmosphere and how we feel. So, if it
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affects us, it probably affects our
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children, too. So, try to choose things
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like soft music during homemaking or a
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calm homemaking video. Try to choose
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outdoor time as often as possible.
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Encourage quiet play from your children.
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Also allow your children to see you
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reading and just let them know like hey
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this is my quiet time and I'm reading
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would you like to read next to me? This
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has also encouraged reading in my son.
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And when we do choose screen time, try
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to choose simple shows. Nothing that's
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too crazy. I have definitely faced
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backlash on my channel from saying this
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before. My children love Bluey even. I
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think it's really, really cute. But I
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wouldn't be honest if I said that I
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didn't think that Bluey as well as a
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bunch of other cartoon television shows
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on like Nickelodeon and Disney are a bit
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over stimulating.
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So one of my favorite networks are
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Minnow, but I also enjoy some of the
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shows on PBS Kids. I also like oldtime
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shows like the Bernstein Bears or Little
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Bear and Franklin. To me, they're just a
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little bit more simple. They encourage
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things like outdoor play and
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relationships with, you know, friends,
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exploration, creativity. Those are the
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type of television shows that I prefer
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for my children versus the sensory
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cartoons, if that makes sense. But the
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point is that noise affects our nervous
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systems, both ours and our children.
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Next, let's talk a bit about handling
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chaos with kids.
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Peaceful homes are not quiet homes. They
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are guided homes. In fact, my home is
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rarely quiet. And if I relied on quiet
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to determine my peace, I would never
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feel like I'm at peace. And a lot of
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moms feel that way.
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Kids are loud. They're curious. They're
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messy, emotional, and beautiful. They're
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learning self-control, communication,
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and patience. These are skills that take
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decades to master. Even some adults have
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not mastered
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these skills.
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So peace with kids normally looks like
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gentle correction,
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clear boundaries, routines that support
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them, compassion for their immaturity
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because they are immature. They're just
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kids, but also compassion for ourselves.
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Give yourself some grace. Some days will
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be noisy. Some seasons will feel like
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survival. But peace doesn't disappear.
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It just changes form.
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We can fill the home with worship,
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scripture, prayer, humility,
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forgiveness. These things do settle into
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the walls of our home and into the
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hearts of our children. They will
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remember them and God will honor them. A
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peaceful home is one where Christ is
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welcome. So, I typically like to invite
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God into my home every single morning.
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It's like the first thing that I try to
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do every single day. It has become the
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staple of how like how I get through and
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manage my day. Just knowing that I'm not
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there alone. God is right there in it
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with me. And when my kids are having
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hard times, I also encourage them to
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invite God into their feelings because
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kids when they're young have really,
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really big feelings. Even teenagers,
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too. And so I try to tell my kids that,
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hey, you're feeling a type of way. You
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don't have to feel it alone. You can
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talk to me, but you can also talk to
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God. He's always there with a listening
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ear, ready to listen, ready to help,
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share your feelings. You don't have to
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feel them alone.
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If you are in a hard season with a baby
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who doesn't sleep or a toddler who
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tantrums or a kitchen that never stays
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clean, maybe you're breastfeeding
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through the night like me and losing
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precious
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hours of sleep. I want to say this very
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gently. You're not doing it wrong. It is
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okay. Peace is not the absence of hard
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things. Peace is God with you right in
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the middle of them.
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Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to
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the brokenhearted and saves those who
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are crushed in spirit." If all you
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managed today was feeding your children,
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hugging them, and holding your home
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together, even if it's through tears,
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you created peace.
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Peaceful homes are not built in grand
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gestures. They're built in ordinary
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moments through daily rhythms,
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surrendered hearts, and the gentle
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presence of God.
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I hope that this video has encouraged
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you today and if it did, I hope that you
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would like it. If you want more videos
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on faithful homemaking and peaceful
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motherhood, slow living motherhood
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would love for you to subscribe to this
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channel and stick around. Remember that
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you are not alone in this motherhood,
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homemaking, whatever season you're in.
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We are building homes that honor God.
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One day, one room, one load of laundry
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at a time.
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Thank you so much for being here and
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watching this video. I will see you guys
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in the next one. Happy homemaking.