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It can be difficult to know how to discipline a child without resorting to physical punishment. Hitting a child may seem like the easiest or most instinctual way to get them to behave, based on our own upbringing, but there are better ways to set behavior boundaries, without hurting our children. In this vlog we'll cover five alternative methods for how to discipline a child without hitting.
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it can be difficult to know how to
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discipline your child without resorting
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to physical punishment hitting a child
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can seem like the easiest or most
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instinctual way to get a child to behave
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based on our own upbringing but what if
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I told you that there were better ways
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to set boundaries would you actually
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explore those alternative ways to
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discipline a child without physical
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punishment well and this Vlog we are
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going to cover five alternative ways to
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discipline a child without physical
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punishment or hitting
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thank you
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there are a number of ways to discipline
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a child without resorting to physical
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punishment although there are many
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different ways to discipline a child and
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some parents rely on physical discipline
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it is important to know that there are
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other ways to do so some effective
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methods include using consistent and
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firm verbal discipline time out positive
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reinforcements natural consequences and
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logical consequences and by using one or
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more of these effective techniques
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parents can discipline their child
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effectively without hitting or hurting
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their children although it may work for
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some physical discipline can also have
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some negative effects on others in some
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cases it can leave a child feeling
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scared anxious or resentful and it can
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also hinder the parent child
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relationship and hinder communication
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the reality is that every parent wants
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to have a well-behaved child that always
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does the right thing that always follows
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instructions and always listens it's
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always perfect but unfortunately that's
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just not always the case and it's just
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not always realistic children are
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curious and impulsive by nature and it
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is inevitable that they will mess up or
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misbehave from time to time but that is
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why it's so important to teach them our
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desired behavior for them in a way
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that's going to stick as opposed to a
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way that's just going to be short-term
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and quick and get us what we're looking
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for in that moment but not necessarily
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work for us in the long run discipline
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is an essential part of raising a child
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but discipline does not always have to
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mean hitting hitting is just one of the
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most common methods used today and this
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is because most parents were conditioned
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to respond and discipline in this way
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based on our own upbringing based on our
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peers and those around us and also based
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on family history but there are
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instances where hitting a child can act
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actually do more harm than good and it
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can also teach a child that aggression
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and violence is an acceptable way to
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solve a problem and to react when we're
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frustrated but most importantly it can
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also cause mental emotional and
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sometimes physical harm in worst cases
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no parent is perfect and we all know
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that parenting isn't easy and our
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toddlers they definitely have their ways
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and it's not always easy to remain calm
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when our toddler is acting out in public
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or yelling or Screaming or throwing a
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tantrum but today I am here to just
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share maybe five alternative methods
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that you can use that will be effective
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in helping you learn how to discipline
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in a way that is going to help you and
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your child in the long run and you will
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not have to resort to hitting one
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alternative is to use consistent and
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firm verbal discipline this involves
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setting clear expectations and rules for
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behavior and consistently enforcing
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those Rules by using verbal reminders
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and praise when the child behaves
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correctly and if the child does Break
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The Rules which inevitably may happen
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from time to time you can still utilize
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firm consequences such as timeouts or
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loss of privileges the most effective
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way to use consistent and firm verbal
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discipline is to always react respond
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and discipline in the same way to
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similar misbehavior another popular
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method of discipline is using timeouts
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this involves sending the child to a
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specific place for a set amount of time
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the area should be set away from any
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toys activities or television that could
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distract the child once the child has
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been in timeout for a set amount of time
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and has calmed down and had time to
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think about what they did to land
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themselves in timeout then the parent
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can join them and talk to them about why
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they were put inside mouth and why they
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shouldn't behave in the way that they
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did the child would then rejoin the
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family or friends or wherever they were
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before they went into timeout so that
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they will have a chance to get it right
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and then receive praise when they behave
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in the appropriate way that is expected
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when using time out it's important to
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set consistent and firm expectations
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along with the timeouts make sure that
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the timeout is an appropriate length of
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time based on their age do not use time
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out as a threat but more so as a way to
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teach your child a lesson give them time
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to calm down and give them time to think
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and actually go through their emotions
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in a way that will not hurt themselves
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or others around them the purpose of
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time out is so that the parent will have
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a chance to actually talk to their
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chatler and explain to them what they
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have done wrong but for them to
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understand it if we try to talk to our
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toddler or our child while they're in
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the middle of having a tantrum yelling
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screaming crying or whatever then the
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lesson that we're trying to teach them
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may not get through to them they may not
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listen to us they may not understand
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until they actually calm down so the
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purpose of the timeout is to give them
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that time to calm down to think about
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what they've done why they're in time
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out of place that they most likely
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probably don't want to be but also give
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them a chance to be able to receive the
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discipline and the instruction that
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we're going to give them once they have
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calmed down the third alternative to
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physical discipline is positive
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reinforcement positive reinforcement is
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when you praise a child for good
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behavior or give them a small reward I
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have heard many parents say things like
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I'm not going to give my child a gift or
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a reward for acting the way that they
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should act or behaving in the way they
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shall behave but a lot of times children
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do not know how they are supposed to
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behave especially at that age where they
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are still learning so if you're dealing
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with an impossive or curious toddler who
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is still trying to figure out the ropes
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of Life who's still trying to learn to
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regulate their emotions then positive
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reinforcement can be a great way to
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understand that when you behave well in
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life you receive good things as opposed
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to when you behave in an undesirable way
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the consequences will not be good it
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will also help them to feel more
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confident and have something to work
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toward and teach them at an early age
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what responsibility is all about this
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increases the likelihood of good
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behavior being repeated everybody knows
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that motivation is just one of those
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things that we need and for us
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motivation comes in many different ways
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and it also comes in many different ways
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for children it could be a small treat
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it could be a sticker it could be a
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little time to go outside and play on
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the playground whatever it may be
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motivation works for even the best of us
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so Toddlers and children need that
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motivation as well but we call it
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positive reinforcement a way that we
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motivate them to display likely and
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desired behavior and to want to continue
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that repeated good behavior another
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alternative to discipline your child
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without hitting is to use logical
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consequences this basically means that
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the crime should fit the punishment and
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it must be something that is in our
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control to administer for instance if
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your child throws a tantrum in the
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middle of the playground a logic with
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consequence to fit that behavior would
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be to remove your child from the
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playground and let them know that they
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will not be able to go to the playground
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for a while because of the way that they
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behave this is an effective way of
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discipline because it is directly
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related to the undesired behavior for
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instance if your child was to act out in
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public and you try to discipline them in
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a way that didn't necessarily have any
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relation to the actual behavior that
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they displayed such as hitting them or
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whipping them for instance then you're
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hurting them although they didn't
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actually hurt anyone so would you say
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that that punishment actually fit the
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crime your child or toddler displayed an
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emotion in public that didn't
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necessarily hurt anyone that didn't hit
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anyone and our way to punish them was to
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actually hurt them or hit them it isn't
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directly related to the behavior that
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they displayed and it may not be an
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effective form of discipline if you
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remove your toddler from the playground
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for throwing said or for having a
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tantrum and letting them know that
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they're not going to be able to return
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to the playground this is something that
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is related to how they reacted and
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they're going to remember this the next
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time they go to the playground you can
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even give them a firm verbal reminder
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that we're going to be going back to the
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playground you haven't been in a while
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because the last time we were here you
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display XYZ type of behavior but now
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we're taking it back and you're going to
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get another chance because it's all
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relative to one another it's much more
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easier for your child to understand why
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they receive the discipline that they
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received and to also remember when they
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received that discipline another example
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would be if your child refuses to do
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their homework a reasonable punishment
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would be to take away another activity
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that they enjoy doing for instance if
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you ask them to sit down and do their
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homework which is an activity that is
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important for them to do you punish them
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by taking away another activity such as
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watching television or playing the game
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it's something that is reasonable and
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something that we can administer aside
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from logical consequences natural
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consequences is also an alternative to
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physical punishment this means that if a
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child misbehaves they suffer the natural
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consequences of their behavior some
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parents believe in giving consequences
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While others believe in letting natural
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consequences just do the work for them
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natural consequences are mostly used for
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older children because it teaches them
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that even in the real world there are
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consequences for their actions one
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example of a natural consequence would
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be if your child is mean to another
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child on the playground or they decide
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not to share their toy naturally that
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child is not going to want to be their
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friend and they're probably not going to
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want to play with them either or share
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their toys with them vice versa so
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naturally you didn't necessarily have to
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step in and discipline your child but
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they're going to want to understand
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later why the children on the playground
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aren't going to want to play with them
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they're going to want to understand why
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the other children aren't sharing with
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them and then you would explain to them
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it's because of the way that you behaved
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towards that child you were mean you
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didn't share and now they don't want to
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play with you and as parents we want to
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Shield our children from receiving that
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as a parent we will naturally want to
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protect our children from being
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as a parent
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Noah quiet down as a parent we don't
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want to see our children's side we don't
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want them to come home and tell us that
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the children didn't want to play with
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them on the playground but unfortunately
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that is a natural consequence of being
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mean and not sharing so it is a
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consequence that happens even in the
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real world and it's a way to teach older
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children a lesson one that they may
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remember because it's something that
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they can actually feel it has not
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physically hurt them so it's not a
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physical punishment but it may make them
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sad and it's something that can be very
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effective another example of natural
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consequence would be if dinner time is
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at 6 pm and you tell your child to come
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down for dinner at 6 PM they refuse to
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eat their dinner and then at bedtime
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they're crying that they're hungry
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naturally they're going to feel hungry
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and we're going to explain to them that
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the reason that they feel this way is
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because they did not listen to their
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parents when we told them it was time
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for dinner as a parent of course course
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it will then give them a snack something
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to hold them over through the night but
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because they have that feeling they know
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what it felt like to be hungry and they
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Now understand that the reason they felt
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that way was because they didn't eat
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their dinner it is another natural
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consequence which we didn't physically
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incur on them but it just happened
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naturally of course natural consequences
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will not work in every situation but it
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can be a very effective method when used
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correctly and when it is appropriate
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there are many different ways to
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discipline our children and what works
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for one family may not work for another
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either of these five methods of
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discipline can work all together or
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maybe just one or two however you decide
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to do it it's important that you make
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sure you be consistent in whichever
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frame of discipline that you use I like
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to use a combination of all the five
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that I just mentioned depending on what
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the situation is and what what was the
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behavior that my child displayed the
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ultimate goal is to teach my child
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appropriate behavior without hurting or
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harming them mentally physically or
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emotionally learning to discipline
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without physical punishment doesn't come
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easily for me and it doesn't come easily
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for many parents especially if it was a
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form of discipline that we received from
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our own parents but if we remember the
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reason that we're doing it and who we're
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doing it for and we do it for a little
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while and we see how much more effective
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it can be than just using short-term
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physical punishment that will work there
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and now but it's not going to work in
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the long run and we see sort of the
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negative consequences that it have we
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will then learn that with a little
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patience and a lot of effort we can
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learn to effectively discipline our
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children without harming them without
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hitting them and without using physical
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punishment if you have any additional
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alternative methods to physical
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discipline or hitting your child that
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you would like to share please leave
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them Below in the comment section so
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that we can all share them with each
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other and I hope that some of the ones
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that I mentioned you found helpful or if
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you know someone who may find these
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methods helpful please do share it with
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